What is Marriage?
God defines marriage right at the beginning of the Bible in Genesis 1:27-28. In this first mention of marriage in the Bible, it is recorded that God created and blessed heterosexual marriage. It was His idea! Furthermore, the basic purpose of marriage, as God created it, is producing children. There are other purposes, such as companionship and helping one another in various ways, but bringing children into the world is clearly the main one. The family has always been the basic building block of society, and of course the only genuine way of propagating the human race. It has been said “as goes the family, so goes the nation,” and truly Ireland will only be as strong as her marriages.
In Genesis 2: 18-24, Scripture describes how God created a man for a woman, and a woman for a man. Adam, the first man, was incomplete without Eve, the first woman, and so God brought Eve to Adam, the perfect counterpart for him. God specifically made man and woman for each other. In God’s wisdom, goodness and love He knows no other combination will meet a human beings needs.
Perhaps all of this may seem far-fetched to you, but bear in mind that Jesus took the Genesis account very literally and based His whole teaching on the subject of marriage on it. In Matthew 19:4-6, Jesus reaffirmed God’s creation of marriage as between one man and one woman. We cannot hold Jesus as a wise teacher if He was deluded about the origins of humanity! If Jesus, who was and is God come in the flesh believed in marriage as God created it, we should too.
Based on these three important passages from the Bible what can we conclude about marriage? We can conclude that Marriage, as God created it, is one man with one woman for life for the basic purpose of producing children.
What about same sex marriage?
On May 22nd 2015, the Irish people will vote in a referendum to decide whether or not to alter our constitution to allow for same-sex marriage. This will allow same-gender couples to marry in much the same way heterosexual couples have for millennia. To my knowledge, the move in the Western World to allow same-sex couples to marry has never occurred in human history before the last two decades. Countries such as Canada have led the way in these massive changes in society.But are they positive changes, or will we regret them in time to come? In light of what God says about marriage, what are we to think about same sex-marriage?
First, a same-sex relationship is not a marriage because it does not conform to God’s definition of marriage as one man with one woman. God is wise, and good, and we cannot come up with a better plan for marriage than He already has! Only in a committed, loving, stable marriage between one man and one woman can children thrive and the needs of both spouses be met. Everyone in society will be better off if we stick to God’s definition of marriage!
Second, a same-sex relationship is not a marriage because it cannot produce children. As stated above, the major purpose of marriage as God defines it is producing children. Because natural children are not even a physical possibility for a same-sex couple, it cannot be called a marriage. Furthermore, the artificial families determinedly contrived by same-sex couples cannot meet the needs of children. A same-sex home is a less than ideal environment in which to raise normal, happy children. Not only are they deprived of the right of growing up with both biological parents, but their parents unnatural relationship has scarring effects upon kids in numerous ways:
…four adult children of gay parents — acting as a “quartet of truth,” according to their lawyer David Boyle in Long Beach, Calif. — have submitted briefs to the 5th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals opposing same-sex marriages, with several saying that growing up under the rainbow was neither normal nor pleasant. The court, which is considering whether to uphold the man-woman marriage laws in Texas, Louisiana and Mississippi, will hear arguments in New Orleans on Friday.
There are “two rights” that every child shares when they arrive in this world, Katy Faust wrote in her brief. “First, the right to live. Second, the right to have a relationship with his/her father and mother.”
Dawn Stefanowicz said her gay father was so preoccupied with sex that when she was in high school and brought home a male classmate, both her father and his lover propositioned him for sex.
B.N. Klein said her mother and lesbian partner disdained heterosexual families completely, and she didn’t have a clue about the daily interactions of a husband and wife until she went into foster care.
Robert Oscar Lopez said his two lesbian mothers were conscientious about his upbringing, but he became so emotionally confused that he turned to gay prostitution as a teen and gay and bisexual relationships as an adult.
Third, a same sex relationship is not a marriage because God says homosexuality is wrong. In passages like Leviticus 18:22, God states that homosexuality is an abomination. This means that it is always wrong and that it is a sin which is particularly grievous to God. (All sin is offensive to God, including adultery, stealing, and other acts that break His law in the Bible.) In Romans 1:26&27 God condemns homosexual relationships and states that there will be consequences for those who indulge in them. However, let me hasten to add that God also says in passages like I Corinthians 6:9-11 homosexuals can find forgiveness and recover from their sinful lifestyle! God truly loves homosexuals, but Jesus had to die on the cross to pay the punishment for their sin.
We must state that a same-sex relationship is not marriage, and should not be recognized as such by any State. If, as a nation, we decide to enshrine same-sex marriage in our constitution, I believe we will one day regret it. The results will be far-reaching and will include children being hurt and scarred by being brought up in homes with same-sex parents. Also, more and more young people will choose an alternative lifestyle as it is “legitimized” by being made equal with heterosexual marriage. (Which begs the question, are people really born “gay”?) Also, God will bring consequences of His choosing to bear upon our nation for our rejection of His plan for marriage. (Psalm 9:17) God knows best, and we cannot lightly desecrate the basic building block of our society; Marriage. Vote No for children, for marriage, and for our country.